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Libido, Loss of

Parts of this were taken with permission from Essential Oils Overview and Reference Guide, published by: The Family Tree, 2008


see also Erectile Dysfunction, Hormonal Balance, Low Testosterone

Libido or loss of sex drive is a complex combination of physiological, psychological and the surrounding relationship/sexual environment of the individual. These factors all vary between female and males and libido concerns are about two times more common in women than men. But, on the other hand, the loss of libido has much more impact on a man than a woman according to some studies.

Female libido

The physiological factors affecting the sexual desires of a woman are much more complex than with a man. The hormonal factors controlling the reproductive cycles changes dramatically from puberty, to child bearing, to menopausal and then to postmenopausal year. With each of these natural changes libido may change. Beyond this disease or medications can alter hormone levels or other factors that affect libido. Then, even beyond this, are the compounding factors of psychological conditions and relationship situations. Depression, anxiety, stress and just basic emotional well-being can all have a psychological impact. Finally the relationship with a sexual partner, the quality of physical intimacy and basic feelings about sexual relationships can be a major contributor to female libido.

Male libido

Men do not experience the peaks and valleys of hormonal effects, as do their female counterparts. Rather, typically, men find a gradual decrease in libido as they mature and age although most men maintain some sexual interest into their 60s and 70s. If libido declines rapidly it is usually a physiological factor that has reduced testosterone, another physical problem or the side effects of medication taken.


[search helps: hypoactive sexual desire disorder, HSDD]

Oils, blends & products recommended:


Oils & Blends:  Anti-Aging BlendC, RoseEC, SandalwoodEC, WhisperC, Ylang YlangEC

Essential oils based products:

Also consider: Black PepperE, CinnamonEC, Clary SageEC, CloveE, GingerC, Lemongrass, PatchouliE, Vetiver, Wild Orange

Note: to understand the E and C superscript go to Home and scroll to New Helps.

Suggested protocols:

Some suggestions others have used successfully:

  Anti-Aging Blend or Ylang Ylang

  3 - 4 drops Ylang Ylang with 1 drop Wild Orange

  Lemongrass, Vetiver and Ylang Ylang

Diffuse or in a roller bottle and apply topically over thyroid area, behind ears and on the wrists.


Female Libido

Oils & Blends: Clary SageEC, RoseEC  ,WhisperC ,Ylang YlangEC

Essential oils based products: Basic Vitality Supplements (LLV)

Also consider: CinnamonEC, CloveEC, GeraniumC, GingerEC, PeppermintC, RoseC,  RosemaryE, SandalwoodEC, ThymeE

Note: to understand the E and C superscript go to Home and scroll to New Helps.

Suggested protocols:

Topically on bottoms of feet and wrists 2 times a day. Also with a warm bath.


Male Libido

Oils & Blends:  Clary Sage, Joyful Blend (Elevating Blend), Sandalwood, Ylang Ylang

Essential oils based products:  Basic Vitality Supplements (LLV)

Also consider: CinnamonC, GingerC, MyrrhC, Rosemary

Note: to understand the E and C superscript go to Home and scroll to New Helps.

Suggested protocols:

Basic Vitality Supplements (LLV) consistently for nutritional support.

Some combinations other have suggested:

  Ylang Ylang on reflexology points and 2 drops Clary Sage under the tongue daily. (Also some suggest Ylang Ylang diluted and applied topically to genital area.)

  3 - 4 drops each of Clary Sage and Ylang Ylang in capsule 1 - 2 times daily.

Experiences and Testimonials of others


Sharon  - I'm going to a Bridal Shower and thought I'd make a nice blend as a gift.  Something they can take along on the honeymoon along with a massage book. Any suggestions?

Carolyn – Maybe some Blend for Women in FCO?

Sharon - I was thinking of Blend for Women too, maybe with a bit of Lime. How much do you think I should add to a bottle of FCO? .

Krisy - Ylang ylang is great for a honeymoon! Very calming. And helps set the mood.

Carolyn - Blend for Women has Ylang Ylang in it, and Ylang Ylang was my first thought. I'd probably dilute it pretty heavily, maybe 20-25 drops and fill the remainder with FCO in a 15 ml bottle.  

Melanie - I love ylang ylang with a drop of wild orange. It smells great coming from the diffuser.

Gin - I'd consider the rose lotion and some Grounding Blend.

RWS - I've given a blend of lemongrass, vetiver, and ylang ylang and have heard rave reviews. Vetiver increases libido, lemongrass balances hormones, ylang ylang treats frigidity. Apparently gets the attention of the groom.  I did combine this in a roller bottle that the bride applied over her thyroid, behind ears and wrists.  It smells a little lemon-y but it does work.

Renee - I have several friends claiming Clary Sage was an aphrodisiac for them.

Kira - I would definitely do the Ylang Ylang, I love that oil it makes me feel happy so I can  imagine it would be good.

GO - Cinnamon, peppermint, wild orange in FCO and grapeseed oil.  Cooling and warming when blown on.


Female Libido

AM - Does anyone have any experience with medications like Paxil and low sex drive? What oils have you tried to offset this side effect?

Amelia - I have no experience with  Paxil specifically but I do know some anti- depressants do the same thing. Ylang Ylang is one of the best oils for this, along with a few others. Blend for Women and Joyful Blend (Elevating Blend) also seem to help.

Gin - As luck would have it this was a topic of conversation for me recently and Clary Sage was recommended as being successful by 2 people I know.


Pat B. - Can someone explain the benefits of the Phytoestrogen supplement for postmenopausal women? Should it be considered? Thanks

LL - I was wondering why one should be taking the pyhtoestrogen? If I understand it correctly, the phytoestrogen works by blocking the left over cell receptor sites on the cells in charge of the estrogen hormones from getting hitchhikers that are bad estrogens so that the good ones can do their jobs. It so this would be great for female issues. In an ATT class I was told a story of a woman and her hot flashes. They did ATT 3 times a week and reduced them down to about one a month. Got rid of and keeps her hot flashes at bay.

Nancy - I've been wondering about this too. I even wondered if I should take it being postmenopausal. I am taking it now and have stopped my bio-identicals cold turkey. The symptoms I have is a hot flash in the morning upon waking and the complete loss of libido...is there any hope of getting that back? I'm using the Grounding Blend and (now A Women's Monthly Blend) morning and night and the bone nutrient as well. Also have fatigue, but that could be related to my hypothyroidism. I've done several rounds of GX/PB and Detoxifying Blend/Terrazyme. I thought maybe upping the phytoestrogen supplement just to see how I would feel but haven’t done that yet.

Brenda - I wondered why they did not suggest the Phytoestrogen also plus (now A Women's Monthly Blend) and Ylang Ylang for low libido. I have been off my hormone products from the doctor for over a year now and taking Phytoestrogen, LLV, (now A Women's Monthly Blend) and Ylang Ylang and have had no problem. And I had Severe PMS and night sweats as well as migraines.  I went cold turkey off of over 20 prescriptions for all my health problems and have been using (...) for over a year with no problems. Once in a while I use Tension Blend if I feel a headache coming on, But that is all. I also love the new Mito2Max for energy level. 

Gin - Just wanted to throw some comments out there. I am cautious with phytoestrogens and hypothyroidism. I’ve known a couple of people who had reactions with it and so far they've all been hypo or have autoimmune issues (myself included). It is the only product I don't use. I would suggest Essential Oil Cellular Complex (2 capsules a day). Several people have good results with hot flashes going away and increased libido. You might also try Blend for Women. If the hot flashes increase just continue the DDR for 2 weeks.

Since I'm sure someone is wondering I started Phytoestrogen and then started having hot flashes and I didn't have a cycle the whole time I was taking it (3 months or so). I thought it was coincidence until one of my friends mentioned the same reaction. I stopped taking it and the hot flashes were gone and have never come back. When I started Essential Oil Cellular Complex my cycle came back. I'm at an age where menopause or peri-menopause wouldn't be surprising but one of the other ladies was an age where it wouldn't be expected. PS - You can also swipe Anti-Aging Blend over your thyroid morning and night.

Pat - (now A Women's Monthly Blend) has been suggested to help alleviate the hot flashes. I would also suggest ylang ylang for your libido, on the bottom of your feet or inside of wrists a couple of times a day. Don't give up, you will find your balance.

KCA - I have a friend who has struggled with a low libido for several years.  She has five children and also works as a nurse, which I am sure adds to her stress level.  She has tried Clary Sage, with no success, are there any other oils that you would recommend for her to use and how long should she use these oils before knowing if they are having a positive effect or not?

Gin - One my friends had success with ylang ylang and LLV.

Carolyn - Definitely ylang ylang.    Before I found (...), I started using wild yam cream, too.  Pretty amazing stuff.   I'm finding that some oils just don't 'speak' to me...Clary Sage and Vetiver being among them, even tho' they are used for conditions with which I need help.   A girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do! Sure hope she finds something.  I can't imagine five children, a full time job and no libido...I would be out of my mind! (I've been out of it enough as it is with just 4 kids and not having to work.)

Missa – How do they use the ylang ylang

Carolyn – Just aromatically for me. on wrists, arms, heart, wherever, and in a warm bath.

KCA – How long do you need to use the oils before you see any results in how you feel?

Carolyn - Aroma works really well for me, so it is kind of like an aphrodisiac.  It just settles me down and helps me feel relaxed and in the mood.  I use it along with the wild yam cream, tho', which is, I think, where they get natural hormones progesterone?    I think that has been a big part of it.  I pretty much only use these when 'the time is right', if you know what I mean.  I'm sure others have more to say about the oils helping.  Grounding Blend and other oils are good, too.  Anything that is calming/relaxing is most helpful.

Gin - I asked and was told Ylang Ylang for ladies topically on the pulse points and for guys the same but add a couple of drops of clary sage under the tongue. Apparently the combination is effective but is something that needs to be repeated daily and there isn't an instant response. For women, add the clary sage if you don't see some results in a couple of weeks. Men seem to need both.

Mindy - I used ylang ylang daily and it made a huge difference for me.


Les – I had a complete hysterectomy and was taking Premerin until 3 months ago, stopped all hormone replacement meds, vaginal atrophy and painful (impossible) intercourse now.  Is it estrogen deficiency or progesterone deficiency or combination? Just signed up with (...) and need guidance on protocol to get me back on my feet.  Other symptoms are extreme fatigue, mental confusion, depression, anxiety, no libido, ADD symptoms (overwhelmed all of the time). Help!  Anyone!! (Hysterectomy needed after tubal ligation caused complications, 8 children, 2 miscarriages)

Kathy – Bio identical hormone replacement therapy - I know some don't agree with this but it is natural.

Pat - Here is what I would do in your shoes:

Immediately start the LLV, using one capsule from each bottle, for one week. Then increasing weekly until you reach the recommended dosage, you will feel the difference.

Start the new Bone Nutrient, add it to your LLV, also the Phytoestrogen pill is amazing you have to use it also. I know it’s a lot of capsules but they will help you so much.

Use Grounding Blend on the back of your neck and inside of wrists daily, this is an important part of your protocol!

Drop two drops of Frankincense under your tongue every morning, let it sit and absorb before swallowing.

Drink a lot of water with lemon oil (2-3 drops per glass) in it, it will flush toxins and PH balance the water.

Use Protective Blend on the bottom of your feet day and night.

Use Calming Blend before bedtime.


Male Libido

Gretchen - My husband had a vasectomy 5 years ago. He is just not the same man since. He is less active, he just seems uninspired and somewhat depressed. The thing is he knows it and is just as frustrated as I am about it. Our sex life has also been effected. We have always been very attracted to each other and 17 years and 3 kids has not changed that, however he isn't able to perform the way he used to. I've read that a lot of these things can happen after a vasectomy. It affects testosterone levels. Any suggestions? His blood pressure, cholesterol, and blood sugar levels are all good.

Suzanne - I would try Rosemary, Clary Sage and/or Sandalwood. Topically and aromatically.  One to 2 drops on location, dilute is recommended. Can also use on reflex points. Diffuse in the air or apply to hands and inhale.

Renee – What oils for male impotence? One book says Clary Sage, Ylang Ylang and Sandalwood and to diffuse and/or apply topically to temples, wrists and back of neck as needed.  Another source says, clary sage, clove, ginger and sandalwood topically and internally.  I have already placed the order for my friend, clary sage, sandalwood and ylang ylang.   So from the instructions on the reflexology chart, would you recommend he apply these oils to his ankles?  Also, if anyone has treated this condition successfully, would you share what you used and how you used the oils. 

Amelia - Yes to ankles as well. I have even heard of taking Ylang Ylang as well as Clary Sage in veggie capsule for this as well. Probably about 3 drops of each daily. If the guy is open to muscle testing you can always muscle test him to see which oils will work best for his needs. Also I think the LLV can only improve matters, just a personal opinion, but the xEOmega does help the blood flow better so it only stands to reason it'd help in this way too.

Renee - Update: when I delivered the oils and protocol to my friend (woman w/no experience with eo for therapeutic use) she was experiencing a heavy pre-menopausal day. (First day of cycle after 4 months of nothing) she was wrung out emotionally. I told her I would not wait to give these oils to her significant other for his impotence and I would help herself first. I had her open the clary sage and the ylang ylang right away and apply them to her ovaries. A few hours later she was thrilled with how much better she felt. Then the next day she reported her sweetheart was also responding very well to the oils.


Betty - I know some men that are interesting in oils that can help with low libido and erectile dysfunction.  They do not want to take any medication.  I know some recommend clary sage, and ylang ylang and Joyful Blend (Elevating Blend).  Are there any others you would recommend?

Pat – I agree with the oils and I have heard that LLV also helps with this.

Susie – Yes, it does.


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